Discover a New Way to Connect, Communicate, and Truly Understand Each Other
Tired of miscommunication, unmet expectations, and feeling stuck in the same patterns?
What if you could finally understand yourself and your spouse on a deeper level?
Becoming Us is a self-paced, online course designed for your unique Enneagram Type combination, helping you:
- Improve communication & conflict resolution
- Break free from unhealthy patterns
- Build a Gospel-centered, thriving marriage
Your marriage was made for more. Start your journey today!
Use coupon code: BU150 for 50% off!
Unsure about your type?
A Marriage Course Designed Specifically for the Two of You!
No matter your Enneagram Types, there is a Becoming Us course uniquely tailored to your relationship.
We’ve created a personalized curriculum for all 45 Type combinations because every marriage is different. The dynamics between a Type 1 and Type 3 can look completely different from those of a Type 6 and Type 8 or a Type 2 and Type 4.
Each Enneagram Type has specific Core Motivations shaping the way they communicate, navigate conflict, and connect in marriage. That’s why a one-size-fits-all approach doesn’t work.
With Becoming Us, you’ll gain insights and strategies tailored to your unique relationship, helping you:
✔ Understand each other’s needs, fears, and desires on a deeper level
âś” Break free from miscommunication and unhealthy cycles
âś” Build a marriage rooted in grace, connection, and lasting love
Your relationship is unique—your path to a thriving marriage should be too. Let Becoming Us guide you toward deeper understanding and a stronger, more fulfilling connection.
With your Type-Specific Course you'll...
Gain deeper understanding of
yourselves and one another.
You’ll discover how your unique personality Types and Core Motivations drive each of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Master healthy communication dynamics.
Uncover each of your communication styles and tendencies when you’re doing well and when you’re struggling. You’ll learn to improve the way you communicate with your partner, so you each feel heard and understood.
Foster a culture of compassion in your home.
Learn how to exercise more balance, self-control, and grace in your daily interactions. Turn hot-button arguments into balanced and productive conversations.
Get conflict resolution strategies customized to your personalities.
Understanding how your significant other ticks is a game-changer when it comes to preventing or reconciling marital issues, from the tiniest everyday aggravations to the deepest of relationship wounds.
Experience transformative growth and relational breakthroughs.
Learn to avoid unhealthy patterns and misunderstandings before they become significant issues in your marriage.
Fuel your relational intimacy and joy.
Build a culture of mutual respect, compassion, and connection in your home as you learn to affirm, support, and point one another back to Christ.
Use coupon code: BUXMAS21 to receive $150 off
Hi, We’re Beth & Jeff McCord
We know what it’s like to struggle in marriage. That’s why we created this course—to give you the Enneagram and Gospel insights we wish we had in our early years.
Our Story
We got married at 20, full of optimism, excitement, and big dreams for our future together. We were confident that love, faith, and good intentions would be enough to build a strong and fulfilling marriage.
But reality set in quickly.
Like so many couples, we found that the transition from dating to marriage wasn’t as seamless as we’d hoped. We loved each other deeply, but navigating our differences—our personalities, expectations, and unspoken fears—led to tension and miscommunication. No matter how hard we tried, we kept running into the same frustrating patterns and relational strongholds. By our fourth year of marriage, we were stuck, exhausted, and desperate for something to change.
Maybe that sounds familiar. If so, we want you to know—there is hope.
The Gospel and the Enneagram changed everything for us. When we began to truly understand who we were, how we were wired, and how the Gospel meets us in our struggles, we finally experienced the grace, connection, and transformation we had been longing for.
Now, after 30 years of marriage, we want to help you discover the same freedom, joy, and deeper connection that we found.
Wherever you are in your marriage—whether you feel stuck in unhealthy patterns or simply want to grow closer—we invite you to join us. Let’s break free from frustration, build deeper understanding, and embrace the marriage God designed for you.
This is your turning point. We’re here to help.
We learned to recognize the ways we would each think, speak, and act when we were out of alignment with the Gospel. We discovered that much of the time, the root of our marriage issues stemmed from not truly understanding one another’s hearts, and insisting that our point of view be seen as right. We believe that if we’d had the tool of the Enneagram from a Gospel perspective earlier, it would have helped us to avoid so much pain and misunderstanding.
Imagine how your relationship would change if you really trusted the amazing news of the Gospel, believing that Christ is restoring you and your significant other. God has an amazing plan for your relationship, and He put you with your spouse - along with all your thought patterns and quirks - to accomplish His purposes. Challenges are inevitable, but when you learn to navigate them in a healthy way, you’ll experience transformational grace and abundant life.
No matter your season or personality combination, our heart is to show you how to grow into the individuals and couple you were created to be. And we do that while intentionally focusing on the intricacies of your Type combo.
What's Inside Your Course
You’ll get the value you’d receive from reading countless self-help books, listening to marriage-focused podcasts, or attending regular couples therapy in just 8 digestible video coaching sessions. You can complete them together or separately at your own pace, from the comfort of your own home.
8 Type-Specific
Coaching Sessions
Our Story + The Enneagram
Your Enneagram Types
Your Relationship Dance
The Gospel
Your Family of Origin
Your Communication Styles
Your Conflict Styles
Becoming Us
Coaching Session 1: Our Story & The Enneagram
We take you behind the scenes of our Becoming Us journey—from feeling disconnected to experiencing a deeply fulfilling marriage—using the truth of the Gospel and the power of the Enneagram. We simplify the Enneagram so you can use it to truly understand yourself and your spouse, helping you recognize patterns and align your relationship with God’s truth.
Coaching Session 2: Your Enneagram Types
It’s time to explore what truly drives each of you. You’ll uncover your Core Motivations and gain clarity on why you think, feel, and respond the way you do in your marriage. This session helps you recognize where you’ve been seeking fulfillment in the wrong places and shows you how to turn back toward Christ and each other.
Coaching Session 3: The Dance
Your relationship patterns, or your "Dance," shape the way you interact—sometimes in healthy ways, sometimes in ways that create tension. You'll identify the unhealthy dances unique to your Enneagram pairing and learn practical strategies to transform them into patterns that bring connection, trust, and joy.
Coaching Session 4: The Gospel
At the core of a thriving marriage is the Gospel, not just as an idea but as the foundation for your daily interactions. In this session, you'll learn how to apply Gospel truths to your relationship so peace, intimacy, and a deeper connection with your spouse can flourish.
Coaching Session 5: Family of Origin
Your past experiences shape your present expectations in marriage. You and your spouse see marriage through different lenses based on childhood messages and family dynamics. This session will help you uncover how those early experiences influence your relationship today and teach you a simple but powerful tool to break unhealthy patterns and return to your true identity in Christ.
Coaching Session 6: Communication Styles
Every Enneagram Type communicates differently, and when those styles clash, it can lead to frustration and disconnect. In this session, you’ll learn Type-specific communication strategies so you both feel heard, valued, and understood, deepening your emotional connection.
Coaching Session 7: Conflict Styles
Every couple experiences conflict, but how you handle it makes all the difference. This session will reveal how each of your Enneagram Types approach conflict so you can break free from silent treatments, blow-ups, and wounding words. We’ll equip you with Type-specific strategies for resolving disagreements in a way that fosters growth, respect, and intimacy.
Coaching Session 8: Becoming Us
This final session ties everything together, helping you create a vision for your marriage that reflects God’s purpose for you both. You’ll learn how to regularly connect emotionally and spiritually while supporting each other’s dreams and strengthening your relationship. By the end, you’ll have the tools to build a thriving marriage that inspires both you and those around you.
Personalized Workbook Tailored for Your Types
Your course includes a 64-page printable guide. It's designed specifically for your two types to customize your learning experience and deepen your understanding while you go through the course material.Â
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Your Bonuses
You'll Also Get Access To 5 Incredible Bonuses to Help You Accelerate Your Relationship Growth
"From Confrontation to Caring" Communication Formula
Unlock a simple yet powerful 4-step formula to transform the way you and your spouse communicate. Say goodbye to misunderstandings and hello to feeling truly heard, seen, and understood—so you can grow together instead of growing apart.
A Resource on How to Fight Well
Tired of repeating the same arguments? This bonus gives you a proven 5-step process to repair, recover, and reconnect after a disagreement. Learn what forgiveness really is (and isn’t) so you can restore peace and move forward stronger than ever.
Discovering You Online Course
Go beyond surface-level Enneagram knowledge with our best-selling Discovering You course. Confirm your Type, gain deep personal insights, and discover how to use this knowledge to live your best life—and build your best marriage.
Enneagram Enhanced Parenting Plan
Your Enneagram Type shapes how you parent—this guide shows you exactly how. Learn what strengths you bring to your children, the areas to grow in, and how to identify and support your child’s Enneagram Type for deeper connection and patience.
Swift Success
Strategy
Strategy
This strategic roadmap ensures you and your spouse stay committed to growth. Learn how to fit the course into your schedule, apply key lessons long-term, and hold each other accountable—so your marriage keeps thriving far beyond the course.
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We’re excited about the impact this course can have on your marriage, and we want you to feel great about your choice. That's why you're protected by our 30-day money-back guarantee.
If for any reason at all you're not completely satisfied, get in touch with our team and we will give you a complete refund. It's that simple.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Each video session is between 5 and 25 minutes. They are designed to prompt “dates” with your spouse that are about an hour long. Detailed suggestions to facilitate these conversations are included in the Swift Success Strategy bonus.
While we would love for you to watch the video sessions together, we understand that's not always possible. Even if you watch the video sessions alone, it can make a big impact on your marriage. If your spouse isn't ready to take the course with you, don't let that stop you from taking positive action toward the relationship growth you desire!
You can encourage your partner to take our free test to find out their Type by clicking here. It will only take them 5-10 minutes to complete.
Also, if during the videos you discover your spouse is a different Type, simply email our support and let them know your spouse’s correct Type and we’ll do a one-time exchange to get you the right course!
The video sessions are delivered online so you can access them anytime.
We also have downloadable resources to help you move through and understand the content, as well as transcripts for every session so that you can watch or read!
In just a few short sessions, you will gain a deeper understanding of yourselves and one another. You’ll then discover a direct path to healthy and productive communication and conflict resolution in your marriage. You’ll be equipped with knowledge and strategies for better supporting, caring, and pointing one another back to the truth of the Gospel and your true identities in Christ.
Given the new tools and techniques you learn, you'll notice a change in yourselves and your relationship dynamics.
You'll react and respond to one another with more grace and compassion.
Soon, those conversations that used to turn into fights are calm and respectful discussions.
You'll feel heard and understood instead of hurt and confused.
And That's How Your Marriage is Transformed!
Don't Wait Another Day
to
Improve Your Marriage
We’ve learned that most couples wait 6 years before getting help in their marriage, but you can start today. You can learn how to establish healthy patterns early in your marriage and reap the benefits for decades to come! It’s never too early to work toward a flourishing relationship with the person God created just for you.
We’re praying for you and cheering you on every step of the way.
-Beth + Jeff
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