Become a Certified Enneagram Relationship Coach

Become a Certified Enneagram Relationship Coach!

Learn how to see what's really happening between two people, help them understand the patterns keeping them stuck, and confidently guide them toward healthier ways of relating.

You want to help couples.

But when two people sit down in front of you, things can get complicated fast.

Where do you begin?

What do you listen for?

How do you help both people feel understood without taking sides?

What do you do when they keep getting caught in the same argument?

And how do you turn what you know about the Enneagram into something you can actually use to help them?

You don't have to figure it out on your own.

The Enneagram Relationship Coach System gives you a complete relationship coaching system, 12 weeks of live training and practice with Beth and Jeff McCord, and ready-to-use resources for every Enneagram couple combination.

No previous YEC certification is required.

BECOME AN ENNEAGRAM RELATIONSHIP COACH

Maybe You've Thought About Coaching Couples, But You Keep Coming Back to Three Questions

1. Will I actually know what to do with two people?

Helping one person is one thing.

Helping two people at the same time is different.

You're working with two perspectives, two histories, two sets of fears and desires, and two ways of communicating.

And each person's response affects what happens next in the other person.

You need a way to understand what's happening inside each person and between them.

2. How do I turn Enneagram knowledge into actual relationship coaching?

Knowing someone's Enneagram Type is helpful.

But knowing that one person is a Type 6 and the other is a Type 9 doesn't automatically tell you what to do next.

You need more than information about the nine Types.

You need a process for knowing what to do with what you see.

3. Once I'm trained, how do I actually start coaching people?

This is where many certifications stop.

You learn the material. You pass the test. You receive the certificate.

Then comes the question:

"Now what?"

How do you explain what you do? Where do you find potential clients? What resources will you use with them?

Enneagram Relationship Coach is designed to address all three questions.

You Don't Have to Build Your Own Relationship Coaching System

You could spend years doing what we did:

• Reading relationship books.

• Studying the Enneagram.

• Collecting exercises.

• Creating questions and client resources.

• Learning how to coach two people at once.

• Developing presentations.

• Creating resources for different couples.

• Practicing through trial and error.

And eventually turning all those pieces into a repeatable process.

Or you can start with a system we've already spent years developing.

The Becoming Us Relationship Coaching System

Built from the work behind Beth and Jeff McCord's bestselling book Becoming Us, this practical coaching approach helps you answer four important questions:

Who are the two people sitting in front of me?

What is happening between them?

What keeps happening that leaves them stuck?

How can I help them begin responding differently?

We've built the methodology, exercises, couple-specific resources, presentations, and tools.

Now we'll spend 12 weeks teaching you how to use them.

BECOME AN ENNEAGRAM RELATIONSHIP COACH

Here's How You'll Learn to Help Couples

STEP 1

Understand What's Really Happening

Before you can help change a relationship pattern, you need to understand the people creating it.

The Enneagram helps you explore the Core Motivations beneath how each person thinks, feels, and behaves.

Instead of simply looking at what someone did, you learn to become curious about why they responded that way.

Instead of assuming:

"You're a Type 6, so I know why you're doing this."

You learn to ask:

"Help me understand what was happening inside you in that moment."

You help clients understand themselves more clearly while becoming more curious and compassionate toward the person sitting across from them.

STEP 2

Help Them See the Pattern Between Them Two people don't bring their patterns into a relationship independently.

They affect one another. We call what happens next:

The Dance

One person experiences something and responds. That response becomes part of the other person's experience. They respond. And their response comes right back.
Around and around they go.
More pursuit can create more withdrawal.
More withdrawal can create more pursuit.
Criticism can create defensiveness.
Defensiveness can create more criticism.

Instead of simply asking:
"Who started it?"
you help the couple become curious about:
"What keeps happening between us?"

STEP 3

Help Them Begin Responding Differently

Seeing the pattern is important.

But awareness alone doesn't change a relationship.

Once clients begin recognizing their Dance, you can help them slow it down, understand what's happening inside themselves, and recognize where they have an opportunity to respond differently.

The question begins to shift from:

"How do I get my partner to change?"

to:

"What is mine to notice and change?"

That's where a healthier Dance can begin.

Every Type. Every Pairing.

Your First 10 Sessions Already Prepared.

Every couple is unique.

But you shouldn't have to start with a blank page every time a new couple comes to you.

There are nine Enneagram Types.

Put two people together, and there are:

45 Enneagram Couple Combinations

And we've already created coaching resources for every one of them.

The Complete Becoming Us Couples Library

You'll receive customized 64-page coaching guidebooks for all 45 Enneagram couple combinations.

Each guidebook gives you a structured starting point for 10 coaching sessions with that specific couple combination, while giving you the flexibility to continue working with the couple beyond those initial sessions.

Instead of wondering:

"What should we work on this week?"

you'll have a clear path to help you explore areas such as:

The Core Motivations influencing each person
Potential areas of misunderstanding
Relationship strengths
Patterns worth exploring
Questions that deepen the conversation
Areas where each person may feel unseen or misunderstood
Opportunities for greater connection

The guidebooks don't tell you who the couple is or lock you into a rigid script. They give you a prepared path so you can focus on coaching the people sitting in front of you.

You won't have to research every new Type combination, create your own session plan from scratch, or spend hours preparing what to cover next.

Your first 10 sessions are already prepared.

And when those 10 sessions are complete, you can continue coaching the couple based on what you've discovered together.

We've already done that work for you.
You get to focus on the couple sitting in front of you.

BECOME AN ENNEAGRAM RELATIONSHIP COACH

Helped me expand my business to serve a larger group of people…

Using this material has allowed me to expand into doing workshops and retreats. One couple came to one of my Christ-centered Enneagram conferences feeling pretty broken within their relationship.

Afterward, they said, “We felt broken beyond repair. Your enlightenment on how to get unstuck and bring God's grace into our marriage provided radical transformation.”

That is just the true testament that Marriage and Family Endorsement training can really help couples seek redemption within their marriages. It provides the opportunity to build a greater connection through the Gospel and the tool of the Enneagram.

- LAURA NECHANICKY-BOOTH
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and
Endorsed Marriage and Family Enneagram Coach

Learn It. See It. Practice It.

Having a great coaching system isn't enough.
You need to know how to use it.

That's why this isn't simply a library of videos and PDFs.
You'll Train Live for 12 Weeks With Beth & Jeff McCord

LEARN IT
Beth and Jeff will teach you the principles, tools, and coaching process behind the Becoming Us approach.

SEE IT
Watch demonstrations and work through relationship scenarios so you can see how the concepts translate into actual coaching.

PRACTICE IT
Begin using the framework yourself through coaching exercises and practice.
Throughout the training, you'll also have opportunities to bring your questions to Beth and Jeff:
"What am I seeing here?"
"What would I ask next?"
"What happens when one person shuts down?"
"What would I do here?"
The goal isn't simply:
"I understand this."

The goal is:
"I know how to begin using this.”

Opened up some new doors for me!

Before getting my Marriage and Family Endorsement, it was honestly hard to get my Enneagram coaching business off the ground. But the Marriage and Family Endorsement really opened up some new doors for me! People are excited to latch ahold of these because they can see it benefiting entire family systems and marriages.

With the Marriage and Family Endorsement, I was able to offer marriage workshops at my church. I have done four of these now and almost every one of them has had 40 people there. There's a lot of energy in the room as people are excited and hungry to learn.

It's been a great way to bring the Enneagram to a wide variety of couples. And from those workshops, I’ve been able to offer individual training and couples coaching.

After some of my workshops, I've had people come up to me and say, “We went home and we were just lying in bed, just talking through our relational dynamics now that we have these unique tools to better understand each other, how we argue, how we communicate. Having this unique tool has provided couple after couple with a way to help them navigate choppy waters together and that's so encouraging!

—BEN SCIACCA

Endorsed Marriage and Family Enneagram Coach