Become a Certified Enneagram Relationship Coach!
Learn how to see what's really happening between two people, help them understand the patterns keeping them stuck, and confidently guide them toward healthier ways of relating.
You want to help couples.
But when two people sit down in front of you, things can get complicated fast.
Where do you begin?
What do you listen for?
How do you help both people feel understood without taking sides?
What do you do when they keep getting caught in the same argument?
And how do you turn what you know about the Enneagram into something you can actually use to help them?
You don't have to figure it out on your own.
In the Enneagram Relationship Coach System, we’ll give you a complete coaching system, 12 weeks of live training and practice with us, and ready-to-use resources for every Enneagram couple combination.
No previous YEC certification is required.
Enrollment closes Friday, August 21 at midnight CT.
Maybe You've Thought About Coaching Couples, But You Keep Coming Back to Three Questions
1. Will I actually know what to do with two people?
Helping one person is one thing.
Helping two people at the same time is different.
You're working with two perspectives, two histories, two sets of fears and desires, and two ways of communicating.
And each person's response affects what happens next in the other person.
You need a way to understand what's happening inside each person and between them.
2. How do I turn Enneagram knowledge into actual relationship coaching?
Knowing someone's Enneagram Type is helpful.
But knowing that one person is a Type 6 and the other is a Type 9 doesn't automatically tell you what to do next.
You need more than information about the nine Types.
You need a process for knowing what to do with what you see.
3. Once I'm trained, how do I actually start coaching people?
This is where many certifications stop.
You learn the material. You pass the test. You receive the certificate.
Then comes the question:
"Now what?"
How do you explain what you do? Where do you find potential clients? What resources will you use with them?
Enneagram Relationship Coach is designed to address all three questions.
You Don't Have to Build Your Own Relationship Coaching System
You could spend years doing what we did:
• Reading relationship books.
• Studying the Enneagram.
• Collecting exercises.
• Creating questions and client resources.
• Learning how to coach two people at once.
• Developing presentations.
• Creating resources for different couples.
• Practicing through trial and error.
And eventually turning all those pieces into a repeatable process.
Or you can start with a system we've already spent years developing.
The Becoming Us Relationship Coaching System
Built from the work behind our bestselling book Becoming Us, this practical coaching approach will help you answer four important questions:
What is each person thinking, feeling, and needing?
How are their reactions affecting each other?
What keeps pulling them into the same argument or disconnection?
How can I help them slow down, understand each other, and respond differently?
We've built the methodology, exercises, couple-specific resources, presentations, and tools.
Now we'll spend 12 weeks teaching you how to use them.
Here's How You'll Learn to Help Couples
STEP 1
Understand What's Really Happening
Before you can help change a relationship pattern, you need to understand the people creating it.
The Enneagram helps you explore the Core Motivations beneath how each person thinks, feels, and behaves.
Instead of simply looking at what someone did, you learn to become curious about why they responded that way.
Instead of assuming:
"You're a Type 6, so I know why you're doing this."
You learn to ask:
"Help me understand what was happening inside you in that moment."
You help clients understand themselves more clearly while becoming more curious and compassionate toward the person sitting across from them.
STEP 2
Help Them See the Pattern Between Them.
Two people don't bring their patterns into a relationship on their own. They affect one another. We call what happens next:
The Dance
One person experiences something and responds. That response becomes part of the other person's experience. They respond. And their response comes right back.
Around and around they go.
More pursuit can create more withdrawal.
More withdrawal can create more pursuit.
Criticism can create defensiveness.
Defensiveness can create more criticism.
Instead of simply asking:
"Who started it?"
you help the couple become curious about:
"What keeps happening between us?"
STEP 3
Help Them Begin Responding Differently
Seeing the pattern is important.
But awareness alone doesn't change a relationship.
Once clients begin recognizing their Dance, you can help them slow it down, understand what's happening inside themselves, and recognize where they have an opportunity to respond differently.
The question begins to shift from:
"How do I get my partner to change?"
to:
"What is mine to notice and change?"
That's where a healthier Dance can begin.
Every Type. Every Pairing.
Your First 10 Sessions Already Prepared.
Every couple is unique.
But you shouldn't have to start with a blank page every time a new couple comes to you.
There are nine Enneagram Types.
Put two people together, and there are:
45 Enneagram Couple Combinations
And we've already created coaching resources for every one of them.
The Complete Becoming Us Couples Library
You'll receive customized 64-page coaching guidebooks for all 45 Enneagram couple combinations.
Each guidebook gives you a structured starting point for 10 coaching sessions with that specific couple combination, while giving you the flexibility to continue working with the couple beyond those initial sessions.
Instead of wondering:
"What should we work on this week?"
you'll have a clear path to help you explore areas such as:
- The Core Motivations influencing each person
- Potential areas of misunderstanding
- Relationship strengths
- Patterns worth exploring
- Questions that deepen the conversation
- Areas where each person may feel unseen or misunderstood
- Opportunities for greater connection
The guidebooks don't tell you who the couple is or lock you into a rigid script. They give you a prepared path so you can focus on coaching the people sitting in front of you.
You won't have to research every new Type combination, create your own session plan from scratch, or spend hours preparing what to cover next.
Your first 10 sessions are already prepared.
And when those 10 sessions are complete, you can continue coaching the couple based on what you've discovered together.
We've already done that work for you.
You get to focus on the couple sitting in front of you.
What Our Coaches Say
A note about these testimonials: These coaches completed YEC’s former Marriage and Family Endorsement program, the predecessor to Enneagram Relationship Coach (ERC). ERC includes the core relationship-coaching methodology they experienced, updated and expanded with foundational Enneagram training and additional resources. Some testimonials describe Christian applications of the material; ERC is taught in a faith-neutral professional coaching format.
Helped me expand my business to serve a larger group of people…
Using this material has allowed me to expand into doing workshops and retreats. One couple came to one of my Christ-centered Enneagram conferences feeling pretty broken within their relationship.
Afterward, they said, “We felt broken beyond repair. Your enlightenment on how to get unstuck and bring God's grace into our marriage provided radical transformation.”
That is just the true testament that Marriage and Family Endorsement training can really help couples seek redemption within their marriages. It provides the opportunity to build a greater connection through the Gospel and the tool of the Enneagram.
- LAURA NECHANICKY-BOOTH
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Graduate of YEC’s former Marriage and Family Endorsement program
Learn It. See It. Practice It.
Having a great coaching system isn't enough.
You need to know how to use it.
That's why this isn't simply a library of videos and PDFs.
You'll Train Live for 12 Weeks With Us!
LEARN IT
We’ll teach you the principles, tools, and coaching process behind the Becoming Us approach.
SEE IT
Watch demonstrations and work through relationship scenarios so you can see how the concepts translate into actual coaching.
PRACTICE IT
Begin using what you’re learning through coaching practice, demonstrations, case discussions, and live Q&A while we’re there to guide you.
The goal is:
"I know how to begin using this.”
CLASS SCHEDULE
Live classes meet every Thursday from 3:30–5:00 PM CT,
starting September 3 and running through November 19.
Every session will be recorded and added to the course library.
Opened up some new doors for me!
Before getting my Marriage and Family Endorsement, it was honestly hard to get my Enneagram coaching business off the ground. But the Marriage and Family Endorsement really opened up some new doors for me! People are excited to latch ahold of these because they can see it benefiting entire family systems and marriages.
With the Marriage and Family Endorsement, I was able to offer marriage workshops at my church. I have done four of these now and almost every one of them has had 40 people there. There's a lot of energy in the room as people are excited and hungry to learn.
It's been a great way to bring the Enneagram to a wide variety of couples. And from those workshops, I’ve been able to offer individual training and couples coaching.
After some of my workshops, I've had people come up to me and say, “We went home and we were just lying in bed, just talking through our relational dynamics now that we have these unique tools to better understand each other, how we argue, how we communicate. Having this unique tool has provided couple after couple with a way to help them navigate choppy waters together and that's so encouraging!
—BEN SCIACCA
Graduate of YEC’s former Marriage and Family Endorsement program
What You'll Be Able to Do
By the end of the training, you'll have learned how to:
See what's beneath the behavior
Explore the Core Motivations, fears, desires, expectations, and needs influencing each person's responses.
Recognize relationship dynamics as they're happening
Slow down The Dance and help clients see how each person's response affects what happens next.
Coach two people without simply choosing sides
Stay curious about both people's experiences while keeping your attention on the dynamic developing between them.
Ask questions that move beyond the surface conflict
Help clients explore what's happening underneath the argument instead of simply debating who is right.
Help couples interrupt recurring patterns
Help each person recognize what belongs to them and where they have an opportunity to respond differently.
Explore Family of Origin
Understand how earlier relational experiences may influence present expectations, reactions, and patterns.
Work with a reluctant partner
Know how to approach coaching when one person is hesitant, skeptical, or less engaged.
Work with premarital couples
Apply the system to couples preparing for marriage.
Coach conversations around money
Help couples understand how their patterns and Core Motivations influence financial conversations, expectations, and conflict.
Recognize the boundaries of coaching
Learn when a concern may fall outside the appropriate scope of relationship coaching and another professional resource may be needed.
Built on the Bestselling Book Becoming Us
We developed Becoming Us to help couples use the Enneagram to better understand themselves, understand each other, and recognize the patterns developing between them.
Readers have described the practical difference that understanding can make.
“It taught me how my enneagram (as well as my husbands) can help me understand the ‘why’ behind my reactions.”
— Becoming Us reader, Goodreads
“Seriously so good for building empathy, understanding, and appreciation for your spouse!”
— Karla Vann, Goodreads
“I felt so much more equipped to better relate to my spouse and others in my life.”
— PamelaRenee, Target
Another reader described the second half of Becoming Us as a “road map” for understanding yourself and your spouse.
The professional training takes that work further.
Instead of simply learning how these ideas apply to your own relationships, you'll learn how to use them while helping others.
Learn From the People Who Built the System
Beth & Jeff McCord
Beth and Jeff are the co-authors of the bestselling book Becoming Us and founders of Your Enneagram Coach, where they have helped train more than 2,500 Enneagram coaches in 30+ countries.
Beth McCord has spent more than 20 years studying, teaching, and developing practical applications of the Enneagram. She is the author and co-author of multiple bestselling Enneagram books, including Becoming Us, More Than Your Number, Enneagram for Moms, and The Enneagram Collection, and the creator of YEC's Core Motivations framework. Her teaching and curriculum form the foundation of the Enneagram training used by Your Enneagram Coach to equip thousands of coaches around the world. Beth is known for making the Enneagram clear, practical, and immediately useful for understanding the deeper motivations that shape how people think, feel, behave, and relate to one another.
Jeff McCord brings decades of experience in coaching, relationships, conflict resolution, and mediation. As co-author of Becoming Us, Jeff helped develop the relationship framework at the heart of this training. His professional training includes Gottman Method Couples Therapy Levels 1 and 2, previously serving as a Tennessee Supreme Court Rule 31 Listed Family Mediator, and additional training in conciliation and conflict resolution.
Together, Beth and Jeff created Becoming Us and developed the Enneagram relationship coaching methodology, tools, and resources you'll learn to use throughout this training.
We've Removed the Biggest Obstacles to Getting Started
We don't want to give you a certification and leave you with another list of things you need to figure out.
So we've built those pieces into the program.
"I'm not an Enneagram expert."
Comprehensive Enneagram Training
You don't need to complete Becoming an Enneagram Coach first.
The foundational Enneagram training you need is included.
"What if my clients don't know their Types?"
Typing Specialist Course
Learn how to help clients more accurately identify their Enneagram Type and sort through common mistypes.
"I've never actually coached a couple."
12 Weeks of Live Training and Practice
Learn it. See it. Practice it.
Ask questions and begin using the system while you're still learning.
"I don't know what to do with two people."
The Becoming Us Relationship Coaching System
Learn a practical methodology for coaching two people together, including The Dance, Core Motivations, Family of Origin, reluctant partners, premarital coaching, money and relationships, and coaching scope and boundaries.
"How will I know what to cover from session to session?"
Complete Becoming Us Couples Library
You'll receive customized 64-page coaching guidebooks for all 45 Enneagram couple combinations, giving you a prepared path for your first 10 coaching sessions with any Type pairing.
You won't have to create your coaching plan from scratch. You'll have a clear place to begin, with the flexibility to continue coaching the couple beyond those initial sessions.
"How do I introduce people to what I do?"
Becoming Us Presentation Suite + Book Club Resources
Use ready-to-deliver presentations and Becoming Us group resources to serve people, demonstrate your approach, and create natural opportunities for coaching.
Certification Isn't the Finish Line
Eventually, every new coach has to cross another gap.
From: "I know how to coach."
To: "I'm actually putting this to work."
That's why your training doesn't end after the 12 weeks.
4 Weeks of Book Your First Client
This additional cohort is designed to help you begin putting your training into practice. You'll take practical steps toward:
Clarifying what you offer.
Talking about what you do.
Identifying people who may need your help.
Inviting people into coaching.
We can't promise that completing a certification automatically creates a successful coaching business or guarantee that someone will hire you. But we can help you take practical steps toward moving from training into professional use.
We won't hand you a certificate and leave you alone to figure out what comes next.
One of the best tools out there to help restore families…
My heart has always been for women and also for marriages. Before getting the Marriage and Family Endorsement I was missing a huge tool.
After using the tools in this curriculum, clients have said that they knew each other for the first time. They finally have the words to describe what they feel, how they hear, and what they need.
The Marriage and Family Endorsement has exponentially increased my coaching business and my reach in helping couples. It's the best tool that my husband and I have ever used in our marriage. (And we've been married 39 years!) I guarantee it will change people's lives. I can't recommend it enough!
–MARY DICKENS
Graduate of YEC’s former Marriage and Family Endorsement program
Everything You Get
Your Enneagram Relationship Coach enrollment includes:
12 Weeks of Live Training With Beth & Jeff McCord
Teaching, demonstrations, Q&A, case discussions, and coaching practice.
Becoming Us Presentation Suite + Book Club Resources
Ready-to-use resources for teaching the framework, serving groups, and creating coaching opportunities.
Comprehensive Enneagram Training
The foundational Enneagram content you need. BEC is not required.
Typing Specialist Course
Additional training for helping clients accurately identify their Enneagram Type.
4-Week Book Your First Client Cohort
Practical support for moving from training toward professional application.
Relationship Coaching Reading List
Recommended resources for continuing to develop your relationship-coaching knowledge.
Optional YEC Certification Pathway
After completing the training, you may take YEC’s certification assessment at no additional cost. Active certification requires YEC Certification Network membership, currently $99 per month.
Premarital + Money & Relationships Training
Apply the system to two common areas of relationship coaching.
Complete Becoming Us Couples Library
Customized 64-page coaching guidebooks for all 45 Enneagram couple combinations, providing a structured path for your first 10 coaching sessions with each couple and the flexibility to continue beyond them.
The Becoming Us Relationship Coaching System
A practical methodology for helping couples understand themselves, one another, and the patterns developing between them.
Who Is This Training For?
This training may be right for you if:
- You want to professionally help couples.
- You're already a coach and want to add relationship coaching.
- You're an Enneagram coach who wants a practical system for working with two people.
- You're a counselor, therapist, or helping professional interested in adding an Enneagram relationship-coaching framework where appropriate.
- You're considering becoming a coach and feel especially drawn to relationship work.
- You want practical tools and live practice, not simply more information.
- You'd rather learn an established system than spend years building your own.
You don't need a previous YEC certification.
You don't need to already be an Enneagram expert.
We'll give you the foundation you need.
Are You Already a Helping Professional?
If you're already a counselor, therapist, coach, pastor, mediator, or other helping professional, you may not be looking for an entirely new career.
You may simply want a better way to understand and work with the relationships you're already encountering.
This training gives you an Enneagram-based relationship coaching framework and practical resources you can incorporate where appropriate within your existing professional role.
The Certified Enneagram Relationship Coach credential does not expand your legal or clinical scope of practice.
This Professional Training Is Faith-Neutral
The original Becoming Us book was written from a Christian perspective.
The Enneagram Relationship Coach program is taught in a faith-neutral professional coaching format designed for use with clients from a broad range of backgrounds and beliefs.
You do not need to share a particular religious belief to participate or use the coaching approach.
Become a Certified Enneagram Relationship Coach
Certification is earned by passing YEC's certification assessment at no additional cost. But the greatest value of this program isn't simply adding another title after your name. It's what prepares you to use that title:
A relationship coaching system you understand.
Tools you can actually use.
Resources you don't have to create yourself.
Live training and practice.
Guidance from the people who developed the methodology.
Support for beginning to put it to work professionally.
We’ll prepare you to do the work.
Your Investment
Choose Your Enrollment Path
New to YEC Coach Training
Everything you need to become a Certified Enneagram Relationship Coach is included. BEC is not required.
Already a BEC Graduate?
You’ve already completed the foundational Enneagram training in BEC, so you’ll receive a $1,000 tuition discount on this program.
You’ll still participate in Beth’s live training because it includes newly updated teaching and directly prepares you for Jeff’s relationship-coaching instruction. This honors your previous investment while ensuring you receive the complete, current training that will benefit both you and your clients.
You save $1,000 as a BEC graduate.
BEC graduate pricing is reserved for verified Becoming an Enneagram Coach alumni. Eligibility will be confirmed after enrollment.
Your discount is applied automatically.
Our 30-Day Money-Back Guarantee
Your 30-day guarantee begins on the day you purchase. You can begin participating in the training right away, with weekly class materials released according to the course schedule. If you decide Enneagram Relationship Coach is not right for you, email [email protected] from the email address connected to your purchase before your 30-day guarantee ends.
We will refund any payments you have made, cancel any remaining installments, and close your program access.
During the guarantee period, weekly materials will generally become available on Monday of each class week. On day 31, the Coach Resources & Bonuses section and all other course materials available at that time will unlock automatically. Materials for future classes may not be uploaded until Monday of that class week so we have time to ensure everything is complete and professionally prepared.
Want Earlier Access?
You may choose to waive your 30-day money-back guarantee and request access to the remaining course sections and all currently available materials.
To do this, email [email protected] and clearly state that you are waiving your 30-day money-back guarantee and requesting access to the remaining course.
Once your request is confirmed and access is opened, your entire purchase becomes nonrefundable. If you selected the 12-month payment plan, you will remain responsible for completing all remaining payments. Materials for future classes may still be released on Monday of each class week.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I have to complete Becoming an Enneagram Coach first?
No. BEC is not a prerequisite. The foundational Enneagram training you need is included.
What if I've already completed BEC?
You're not starting over.
You've already completed the foundational Enneagram training, so BEC graduates receive special pricing and save $1,000.
You'll still participate in the live Enneagram portions because you'll be practicing how to apply what you already know specifically to couples and relationship coaching.
Instead of simply relearning the Enneagram, you'll learn to apply your existing knowledge in a new context.
Do I need previous coaching experience?
No previous YEC certification is required. We’ll teach you both the foundational Enneagram content and our relationship coaching approach.
I'm already a therapist, counselor, coach, or helping professional. How does this fit with what I already do?
You can use the Enneagram and relationship coaching tools where appropriate within your existing professional role and scope of practice.
This certification does not provide clinical licensure or expand your legal scope of practice.
Is this program faith-based?
No. Although the original Becoming Us book was written from a Christian perspective, this professional training is taught in a non-faith-based format.
Is this therapy training?
No. This is relationship coaching training. It does not provide mental-health licensure or qualify someone to practice psychotherapy. You'll also learn to recognize when a concern may be outside the appropriate scope of coaching.
How do I become certified?
After completing the training, you may take YEC’s certification assessment at no additional cost. Once you pass with a score of 80% or higher, you can activate and maintain your Certified Enneagram Relationship Coach credential through the YEC Certification Network, currently $99 per month.
The Network is much more than a certification fee. It provides ongoing professional development, monthly support, new training and resources, connection with other YEC coaches, and continued authorization to use YEC’s certification title, logo, and certification marks.
Will the live sessions be recorded?
Yes. Every live training session will be recorded and added to your course library for lifetime access. If you can't attend live, you can watch afterward. You can also return to the teaching, demonstrations, Q&A, and coaching practice whenever you need a refresher.
How long will I have access to the Becoming Us Couples Library?
You'll have lifetime access.
The complete Becoming Us Couples Library includes customized 64-page coaching guidebooks for all 45 Enneagram couple combinations, with a structured path for your first 10 coaching sessions with each couple. The entire library will remain available in your course library for life, so you can return to the appropriate guidebook whenever you begin working with a new couple.
What happens after the 12-week training ends?
You'll move into the 4-week Book Your First Client cohort, designed to help you begin putting your training into professional use.
Will you help me find clients?
We'll help you take practical steps toward finding coaching opportunities.
Book Your First Client helps you clarify your offer, talk about what you do, identify potential clients, and begin inviting people into coaching.
We do not guarantee a specific number of clients or income.
CLASS SCHEDULE
Live classes meet every Thursday from 3:30–5:00 PM CT,
starting September 3 and running through November 19.
Every session will be recorded and added to the course library.
Stop Wondering Whether You'll Know What to Do And Go For It!
Picture a couple sitting down with you, stuck in the same argument they've had again and again, one frustrated, the other feeling misunderstood.
But this time, you know exactly where to begin. You know how to slow things down, explore the Core Motivations beneath their responses, and help them see The Dance happening between them. You have the questions, the resources for their Enneagram pairing, and a process you've practiced.
You don't need every answer or to fix their relationship. You need a system, tools, training, and practice.
We've built the system, now we'll teach you how to use it. Become a Certified Enneagram Relationship Coach.